Saturday, December 11, 2010

It's Saturday!!

I enjoyed going to another new blog (to me) Mr. Shag I believe his name is.  There he wrote a long and well written piece on childhood predators.  I suppose more children have those un-nerving and sometimes fatal encounters.  We children were always taught to obey adults and we were loathe not to, regardless of our own instincts and fears.  I imagine each of us might have a story to tell in that regard.

As a mother to three sons I did all I knew how to do to make them aware and to always tell me whatever troubled them.  They had the confidence in me to take care of any situation that needed taking care of as they grew older..partly because of my career and perhaps partly because I knew who to call for additional help if needed. It's hard, it was for me because I cherished them so much,  to keep the cotton batting off of them and let them experience life- but you must let them slip out of your parental iron grip as they learn, if they are to grow.  But caution is needed and two listening ears and two seeing eyes from the parent(s) are mandatory.  Never ever ever cast them out into the largely uncaring world to "experience life" when it can be so seamy. Arm them up first with all they need to know and be a beacon they can turn to. 

  Hm..serious topics for a Saturday, I have to say. 

22 comments:

  1. I read David's post. It is frightening looking back on that particular episode, and you are right, we all could call upon a similar happening from our youth.
    As parents we do have an obligation to keep our children safe, but allow them the opportunity to find their own way in the world.
    LOVE the photo of the petunias. Beautiful!

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  2. I'm eternally grateful I grew up in a small rural area, in the 70s, sheltered from violence and predators. Not that there weren't any, I'm sure, just that I had no knowledge of things like that. In some ways children are so much more "grown up" today, if you know what I mean. Maybe it was just my upbringing, though. My experiences could have been quite different, regardless of where I grew up, or when.

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  3. Serious topic? Yes, it is, but we all have our many moments of seriousness, so you're in good company. Besides, you're my twin, lol. DavidShags page is great, Carole. You are going to find (since you and I are SO much alike) that he must be your twin, too! I get blown away every time I read his thoughts and ideas. You're going to LOVE it!
    Now, how's my neice today? You know the one...the one that joined PETA but still wears fur LOL
    XOXOXO

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  4. Our little neighborhood was pretty sheltered and everyone watched out for everyones kids. We were kept pretty well home too. As my kids grew the outside world was more open to them so things were a great worry to a mother. It is definitely hard to know when to let go and when to hold on. All you can do is arm them with all the knowledge and experience you have and warn them about the world.

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  5. It maybe a serious topic for Saturday but it is a very important one! When I was a child it was much safer around my neighborhood but it has changed a lot. I think we have to let go at some point but I agree, we must never do that irresponsibly just to let children experience life.
    I love the photo. Beautiful flowers :-)

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  6. Hi Sis! The roasted Chicken was pretty good and
    although I have a good acknowledgement from my family :-)
    And I felt good too as you know what is likes.
    I used soy sauce instead of salt and fresh Rosemary.

    My children has grown up and they have own their family just like their mum & Dad:-)
    We didn't do to our children that punishment.
    When I was a child,I was smacked by my parents when I misbehaved, in school I was punishment by the teacher and acted up on didn't do my homework.
    But our children we talks them it more likely from their father:-) because they have difference in their attitudes, a lots of change in their generation.

    One thing still same for toward to adults people
    that it must obey (not all them) and respected.
    And a good MANNERS.

    These things are big part of in life and we used to said if you wanted know the kids parents are?
    just watch how they behaved in the their manner
    an especially at the dinner table but not all them are right:-)
    xoxox
    Sis.

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  7. Have a great Sunday Sis..at least a snow and rain free one!! :-)

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  8. Serious as it is you did what I did.. Just what I did and they always come home to me and learned early also. The world is not what it was when we were children or when I was.
    I smiled at your flower. I just love her.
    Great blog I think and glad you wrote this one.
    Hugs.

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  9. Seems too long since I have been here .

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  10. I forgot about your photos "the petunias are beautiful" though in the winter time?
    Have a good night sleep tonight,
    xoxox
    Sis.

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  11. (psstttt, Carole! Just to let you know, the chicken is defrosting :D but I might have to fix it Monday instead of Sunday as the weather is awful. It's raining and sleeting and this recipe was being planned for 2 -- Mom's Bob and me, YAY. Bob is in his 80's so I don't want him driving in this mess, therefore the 'maybe Monday'. Man, I can almost taste it! Oh yeah, and the recipe will not be changed one iota.)

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  12. Keeping ones children safe is paramount & training them to keep themselves safe is also. My g/f and I lived in a tiny town in the 70's. One day we were playing by a two-lane thru road and I saw a man coming towards us trough the woods and a car pulled up- surely if we hadn't ran as fast as we could away we would have been grabbed.

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  13. Relationship with our kids is the ultimate defense! I know that I've taken that tact and I've never regretted it one bit. I'm not talking about being "cool" parent I'm talking about being informed and staying involved with my kids. Smothering is a tactic many take and I believe it to be a fatal mistake. I hope you're doing well this fine day Carole. As you know I've been tied up with concerts or I'd get over here sooner. Only one more heavy weekend and we're done for another year!

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  14. Serious topic, but right on the spot. Well said. I Nana would have agree'd with you, too! ;-)

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  15. I hope you see this before tomorrow (Monday). I cancelled the dinner for tonight because of the weather, but am having it tomorrow night instead. I forgot to ask you about the chicken thighs. Did you leave them with the skin on while they were cooking or did you use skinless? If the skin was left on, did it brown and crisp up in that short time? I'll ck back later tonight and tomorrow morning to see if you posted here. Thanks, 'o friend 'o mine xoxoxo

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  16. Jenny, I bought skin on thighs and just peeled it (the skin) off myself. Just 4 thighs were 2 pounds, believe it or not.

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  17. Ahhhh, ok, thanks, so that means you did the cooking with the skin OFF. I can do that. Yes, I buy thighs and leg quarters all the time (my favorites for everything) and I looked at the pkg of 4 thighs I already had and yep, 2 lbs 1 oz. On a good night I can down all of them, lol, but this time I'll share them with Bob.
    Thanks, sweetie, I'm glad I asked. You're SO good.

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  18. Let me know how you two liked them. They are not bland as you can tell as they are cooking.

    For those who substitute ingredients..you're kind of on your own.

    Admiral sends kitty kisses and thank yous to you and you babies for your well wishes and happy birthdays.

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  19. I had to laugh, Carole, when you said, "For those who substitute..." Noooooo, not me. If someone gives me a recipe that they say is just scrumptious, I'll be darned if I'm going to put completely different ingredients in it and say it was just ok. Huh? Where does that come from? As for blandness, I can tell by the recipe they are nowhere near bland. I can sit and read cookbooks cover to cover and taste every dish in my mind as I read. Love to cook, love to eat :D
    By the way, Admiral's kitty kisses are just the best :)

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  20. It is sad we even have to warn our kids about those kind of people. I will never ever understand how someone can even look at a child and have such evil thoughts go through their heads.
    Take care gf hugs

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  21. Serious, and well written and even in the 'old days' there were predators. The petunias are my favorite color. My thighs and potatoes were very good, even Kassey liked them. I already had the white baking potatoes, but no Rosemary. I used Grill Shakers for steak. Maybe if I can find a small bottle of Rosemary, I'll try it as I like the smell of it. I'd rather have the fresh though.

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