Thursday, July 12, 2012

It's a Whole New World Out There.

New world and as many others do, I have thoughts and--- GASP--- opinions.

The other night I saw an interview on National TV that was supposed to be news but as always it was junk and titillating things--little (highly slanted)  news.  So, here's the intrepid reporter, a female interviewing a woman with a 12 year old girl who was just going into a waxing salon to have a bikini wax.

The intrepid reporter interviewed several woman on the street (wonder why no men?  OK I won't go there) and asked what they thought of the increasing trend of waxing salons advertising to get pre-teens in for intimate waxing.  They all said "Ew" more or less.  But then, same intrepid reporter asked the mother about her daughter and she said " Well, she was adamant about it."

OK.  WHO is the parent?  Who is supposed to teach a child about things, guide the child uprightly, prepare the child for life..help the child with homework but most of all: BE A PARENT?  This thing of letting the kid, male or female, run the family (and they do), make decisions about any and all things with no experience and completely under the influence of advertising has me completely aghast.  So, the daughter was adamant and you, the parent are so afraid of angering your child or worse still imposing rules and making learning situations for reference in the future..you're SO afraid of your child's disapproval, you allow her to go in for a mostly un-necessary bikini wax at the behest of the salons who solicit them?  When did THAT become a good idea?  Are you so bent on being the kid's companion/friend/buddy/co-conspirator that you throw all common sense away and let them make all the decisions?

There was a letter in a magazine asking a columnist how to handle a 15 yr old boy and girl who displayed embarrassing PDA in the living room with the family right there having to see it all.  You're asking how to handle it?  I say get a bucket of cold water and throw it on them and tell the half that doesn't live there to go home. But then, I would never allow such behavior to begin with.  It's disrespectful and it's wrong.

Just sayin'.

14 comments:

  1. Children for the most part are not raised in a real Christian home nor being taught important values....good post.

    ReplyDelete
  2. I couldn't have said it better Twin!!

    ReplyDelete
  3. I'm in total agreement with you. Unbelievable how unfit some people are to be parents.

    ReplyDelete
  4. Hi Sis,
    I am so happy about you just forget all thing in with you.

    xoxoxox
    Sis, Katie,Miyuki,and Victoria.
    Michiko

    ReplyDelete
  5. It does boggle the mind doesn't it. Reminds me of a mother who said her daughter locker her out of her cell phone, but she didn't worry because she was a good kid. What the heck is she doing that she locks her mother (who was paying that bill) out?

    ReplyDelete
  6. As I said to Katie yesterday, sometimes the truth isn't pretty. I'm beyond amazed to see what parents let their kids get away with these days. As for the kids displaying embarrassing PDA, I love the bucket of cold water idea. Our society has become very permissive. Expectations are being set way too high, so that when these kids become adults and don't instantly get what they want, they don't know how to cope.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Part of the problem is that the media in the US is ever-present and saturated with "buy, buy, buy" "You must have this" and similar messages. Corporate America is clearly not much concerned with the ethics of how they make a profit. That sort of thing has been going on for years. The totally opposite sort of thing does happen. Just recently a case was in the news where a girl's father and stepmother kept her locked in a room in the basement for weeks for some trivial infraction. Earlier this year was a really horrific story about a girl forced by her parents to live in a bathroom. Too many people seem to be at one extreme or another where child rearing is concerned.

    About the PDA issue, it seems that teenagers and young (so-called) adults will get away with as much as they can. In the late 1960s, when I was in the Navy, it was common for younger sailors to flaunt their hickeys as some wierd sort of "red badge of manliness". Very little was ever said about it.

    ReplyDelete
  8. Very well said, Carole. It is the same in the UK. We are now a child centred society where people don't discipline their children, but rather "discuss" with them, as if the child has the nous to make reasoned judgements and decisions!!! Don't get me started lol

    ReplyDelete
  9. We're with you, Carole! You are SO right on with this post.

    ReplyDelete
  10. Good post. I agree with you 100%. Most young children today are never taught the word NO. Parents give in too eash. Like you said, they want to be the kid's pal! Oh, there are some good parents out there, but I do believe they are far and few between.

    ReplyDelete
  11. As a father, I couldn't wait for my baby girl to grow and gain independence. But as she grew and got older, how I wished she would stop!!! I tried everything to keep her from growing up fast, by making rules about her choice in clothes... the use of makeup... friends... boys... places where she could go on her own and how late her curfews were... etc. Not because I didn't want her to experience all these things, but because I wanted her to grow into them at an appropriate ages. There are just some things that a girl really cannot appreciate until she has grown into a young lady and a young lady cannot appreciate until she is a woman. There is a time for everything. I am so glad that her mother and I agreed on these matters. Honestly, I think my daughter realizes now just from observing what her friends went through, that she was better off waiting to experience certain 'extras' in life.

    ReplyDelete