Sunday, August 25, 2013
So...As I Was Sayin'
Now, I had several ladies take me to task when I made this statement in my old blog of MSN Live Spaces. Before I wade into the topic again, I will clarify that which I did not do the first time I brought it up.
I had said that parents are not meant to be their children's friends. I was roundly chastised and told by the respondents that they certainly did see their children as friends. And so THERE, Carole!!!
Now, what I MEANT and failed to explain then was: Parents are not supposed to be their children's friend instead of their caretaker and teacher as they grow from infancy toward adulthood. After they reach late teens etc. THEN you can become friends as it were. A parent (s) are supposed to be a guide, a leader, a teacher, an instiller (is there such a word?) of morals, discipline and what's the right thing to do. Not to mention teaching them kindness, friendship toward others, developing the ability to wait, learning how to cope with and appreciate ultimately delayed gratification. They should be taught how to anticipate.
You are supposed to give your children a feeling of caring about their fellows by your own example. Children in my opinion should NOT be reared from the beginning of their 2's and 3's and then onward with equal say in the household finances, decisions, and consulted as to what will be bought, and how money is spent.
Nor should they be given everything simply because someone else has it. Learn the value of work, saving, anticipating, caring for your possessions. Learn that the sense of entitlement that your parents bestow on you won't work in every situation. Someone somewhere MAY clean your clock for you. It's not all about you.
Whining screaming and kicking and cursing by toddlers. Slapping their parents. These are things I see almost every day. It's appalling.
Expecting the schools to rear your child is horrible. You will never see what should be your family values taught. Just the poor demonized beleaguered teachers getting it all forced on them to do. Disrespect and spitting, kicking, cursing and hitting teachers seem to be allowed in public schools. Just sayin'.
NOW I'm done. Sorry and just ignore if it's offensive.